Something else happens as we fine tune the ceremony. I witness the transformation of two separate people with two different family backgrounds become a lovely melting pot of shared traditions. A groom with Jewish Sephardic background reads a poem from the Golden Age of Spain's poet Yehudi HaLevi and has Flamenco dancers dancing to Ladino melodies at the reception. A bride with Mexican traditions incorporates the lazo along with the wrapping of the tallit for the Priestly Blessing. Incorporating these cultural traditions serves to unite families as the newly married couple creates traditions of their own. Creativity, flexibility and curiosity are needed in creating shared sacred rituals. We can take the traditions and make them relevant for our time. As the great Rav Kook said, "Make the old new, and the new sacred."